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    Hummusapien Β» Lifestyle Β» Life Β» Just Married---In Our Living Room!

    Just Married---In Our Living Room!

    Published Apr 1, 2020 Β· Modified Nov 8, 2021 Β· by Alexis Joseph Β· 43 Comments

    On our original wedding date of March 28th, 2020, Jeff and I said "I do."

    Who would've thought we'd get married at home during a global pandemic? Can't wait to tell our grandkids about this one!

    Deciding to Postpone Our Wedding

    We cancelled our wedding two weeks earlier, on March 14th. It was a couple days before COVID-19 escalated and the government mandated no further public gatherings.

    It was one of the most heartbreaking decisions we'd ever made, especially since we made it when we still had a choice. Ultimately, we knew we couldn't risk the health of the people we loved most.

    I spent the next two weeks grieving. I mourned the uncertainty of when we'd be safe to get married. I mourned cancelling not one but two honeymoons. I mourned the closing of our Alchemy stores, laying off our staff, and filing for unemployment. I mourned everyone suffering around me and the loss of life as I knew it.

    I felt completely lost, heartbroken, and fearful. It was like everything I'd planned had turned to dust. I couldn't concentrate on work or finding joy or anything else because I was so consumed with our wedding no longer happening. I felt like I had nothing to look forward to.

    We rescheduled our wedding for July 17th, but we both knew that we had to manage our expectations even with a summer date. We still have no idea when things will be better.

     

    When I realized we could still pick up our marriage certificate, we decided we would get married on our original date. All we wanted was to be married, and to continue to push back our date with zero certainty was too painful.

    Getting Married at Home

    The thought of getting married without our friends and family sounded absolutely nuts, but 3/28 ended up being the most intimate and special day of my life.

    It was just the two of us plus Nikki, one of my best friends and Nick, her husband who officiated us. The third person was our original wedding photographer, the wonderful Benjamin of Derk's Works.

    We woke up to our friends having decorated our front yard with tons of gold and white balloons, an "oh happy day" sign (with the word "crappy" crossed out), confetti, champagne, the most special homemade cake, and breakfast from a local restaurant.

    I opened the door and immediately fell to me knees in tears of gratitude and sheer joy.

    We got married at noon. I wore this dress, which I absolutely love and had planned to wear to our rehearsal dinner. These were my shoes. Jeff wore his rehearsal dinner outfit, too.

    I walked down the stairs to Jagged Edge's "Let's Get Married," gave Jeff a big, excited smooch, and then we walked to the living room where we'd framed a little area on the wall with plants to do the ceremony. I held some white roses that my best friend had sent me. We didn't have much of a plan.

    We said we would save our "real" vows for the wedding but that didn't stop us from sobbing during these ones. We started with those and then Nick said some heartwarming words about our love being so genuine and the importance of continuing to pursue our love for each other.

    He then pronounced us husband and wife!

    We popped champagne, cut our cake (how amazing is this cake server set), and were overwhelmed with so much peace.

    That is the best word I can use to describe this day. I told Jeff in my vows that he is peace to me. The day put my mind at ease. I was so grateful and relieved to put the uncertainty behind us and finally be married to my very best friend.

    I know I'll look back on this day with such fondness. Marrying each other at our home basically alone couldn't have been further from our original wedding vision, but I wouldn't change a thing.

    I laughed when people told us we were "lucky" to do it this way, but now I understand what they mean. And we are.

    I of course can't wait to celebrate with our loved ones in July (fingers crossed), but I told Jeff last night that if that couldn't happen, I truly would be at peace with it because we've done what matters most and I feel that so deeply in my heart.

    Trust me---I want to wear my wedding dress, to not throw away all the money and energy I've put into it, to have my dad walk me down the aisle, to dance all night long, to have the wedding I always wanted. But now that I'm married to my person, all the bells and whistles feel far less important.

    Advice For Other Brides

    I've received so many heartwarming messages from brides-to-be who have cancelled/postponed their weddings or have a wedding soon that they're unsure of how to best move forward.

    My best advice would be to focus on the love you have and will have forever versus the celebration you lost. This time will make you stronger. Remember, your love isn't cancelled!

    Getting married at home relieved so much anxiety for both of us. We were not happy together not knowing. It's natural to feel that way when something you love is unexpectedly taken away from you.

    The mere decision to have the marriage, before it even happened, eliminated that anxiety. The comfort of knowing our marriage would be official was what got me through last week. I was dreading 3/28, and I didn't want to mourn that day for the rest of my life.

    If you're a bride not sure when or if your wedding will happen this year, I could't recommend having an intimate ceremony at home more. Have your wedding photographer document the experience if they're up for it. Having Benjamin there really made it feel like a special event.

    To be legally married, you just need your officiant to sign your marriage certificate. I know given the circumstances that not everyone has the luxury of getting their marriage certificate right now.

    But if you do, and even if you want to save the ceremony for your wedding, you may find comfort in taking that step and knowing you were married when you planned to be.

    And if not, crack open a bottle of wine, watch your favorite movie, cook a special meal, and celebrate the love you deserve to celebrate in whatever way feels most authentic to you.

    If you have friends who can't get married on their original date, do something extra special to make them feel loved on that day. The thoughtfulness of my friends really set the happy tone for us early on.

    Thank you to every one who left us such kind messages and comments on social media. I haven't gotten to respond to all of them but know that your support filled us with so much happiness.

    This coronavirus marriage situation won't be the last time life throws us a curveball. Marriage is full of compromise and sacrifice. This chapter of life has solidified what means the most: love, friendship, family, and perspective.

    Sending love to everyone everywhere who's impacted by this in a multitude of ways, large and small. We're in this together and it's not forever. But love is!

    Thanks again to Benjamin of Derk's Works, our wedding photographer who joined us on this special day to capture and document our love.

    About Alexis Joseph

    Oh HEY there! I'm Alexis Joseph, food writer, blogger, Registered Dietitian Nutritionist (RDN), new mama, and co-founder of local restaurant group, Alchemy. I use my passion for cooking and wellness as fuel to help others ignite a more freeing and happy relationship with food. Learn more about Alexis!

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    1. Nikki says

      March 28, 2021 at 10:06 pm

      Beautifully written, my friend. Congrats to you and Jeff!! I truly love your love for each other!

      Reply
    2. Danielle says

      October 27, 2020 at 2:09 am

      A late congratulations! But this is what it’s all about β™₯️ This post made my eyes smart In the 😭 best way !

      Reply
      • Alexis Joseph says

        October 30, 2020 at 4:29 am

        Thank you so much!

        Reply
    3. Liz says

      October 23, 2020 at 11:35 pm

      OMG! Don't even ask how I came upon your site... but I did! One of my BFF's daughter's had to postpone, reschedule, reduce wedding guest numbers (to almost nil) and I was so sad for her lost dream of how we girls plan since we open our eyes at birth (well, okay... I exaggerate the time line). Anyhoo, Covid (does it deserve to be capitalized???!!!) has had my husband in its grasp, my oldest son's fam of four suffering under its tentacles (and still today, my son's ...sigh... was I born to suffer?!) haha (God is really good to me), and, here I am, finding your darling and precious website. Congrats on your wedding and ultra-wonderful attitude about it all. Looking forward to emails and fun, and yay!

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      • Alexis Joseph says

        October 24, 2020 at 12:43 pm

        Aww so glad you're here, Liz! What a doozy this year has been in so many ways. Thanks so much for the sweet congrats! XO

        Reply
    4. ellesse says

      April 05, 2020 at 5:59 am

      So beautiful, Alexis!!! Long time follower and I am just so so happy for you! Don't worry, you will get your wedding aka party in the future! How could I not cry through this whole blog post? wishing you the very happiest and truly beautiful marriage. xoxo

      Reply
      • Alexis Joseph says

        April 13, 2020 at 3:21 pm

        You're so kind, thank you! XOXOXO

        Reply
    5. Lindsey says

      April 03, 2020 at 5:58 pm

      I definitely teared up reading this. It's wonderful you could turn a crappy situation into something so special. Your love for each other is very clear and I'm very happy for you both!

      Reply
      • Alexis Joseph says

        April 03, 2020 at 11:39 pm

        Aww thank you, Lindsey!! That means so much πŸ™‚

        Reply
    6. Tena says

      April 02, 2020 at 4:06 am

      i LOVED reading this!!! Thank you for sharing!!! And you look great in that gorgeous dress you found!! BTW...I can't wait to make the broccoli soup recipe you posted....over here in LA in quarantine.....

      Reply
      • Alexis Joseph says

        April 13, 2020 at 9:57 pm

        That is so sweet, thank you Tena!!

        Reply
    7. Laura says

      April 02, 2020 at 3:39 am

      This is wonderful news, I am so very happy for you! Take care...

      Reply
      • Alexis Joseph says

        April 03, 2020 at 2:45 pm

        Thank you so much, sweet friend!

        Reply
    8. Lindy Chavez says

      April 01, 2020 at 5:54 pm

      Such a beautiful thing to see amidst all the heartbreaking news that surrounds us every day during this time. I wish you two a lifetime of happiness. Thank you for sharing this, Alexis!

      Reply
      • Alexis Joseph says

        April 13, 2020 at 8:55 pm

        Awww thank you, Lindy πŸ™‚

        Reply
    9. Maura Murphy says

      April 01, 2020 at 4:30 pm

      This is so absolutely beautiful! Not only the both of you, but the wonderful attitude you had about it. May you be blessed with many, many happy years together!!

      Reply
      • Alexis Joseph says

        April 03, 2020 at 2:46 pm

        Awww we appreciate that so much!

        Reply
    10. Mari says

      April 01, 2020 at 3:45 pm

      Congratulations!

      Reply
      • Alexis Joseph says

        April 03, 2020 at 2:51 pm

        Thank you, Mari!

        Reply
    11. Courtney says

      April 01, 2020 at 3:25 pm

      Ah, this is just so sweet. I can feel your love through the screen. I definitely shed a few tears. Congratulations <3

      Reply
      • Alexis Joseph says

        April 03, 2020 at 2:51 pm

        Thank you, Courtney! We're so happy πŸ™‚

        Reply
    12. Dylan Miles says

      April 01, 2020 at 3:19 pm

      So happy for you guys! Looks like an absolutely beautiful day, filled with so much love, which is what it's all about! Glad you created your own joy, during such an uneasy time! Love you!

      Reply
      • Alexis Joseph says

        April 13, 2020 at 8:57 pm

        We totally created our own joy--I love that! Thanks, Dylan <3

        Reply
    13. marcia walker says

      April 01, 2020 at 3:11 pm

      Thank you for sharing your story! I don't care to hear any news these days as it's all political and virus related. Your story was so heartwarming and uplifting. You guys rock on and live like there is no tomorrow. Onward and upward!!!

      Reply
      • Alexis Joseph says

        April 13, 2020 at 8:56 pm

        That was so sweet. I'm glad I could provide some uplifting words--we all need it, that's for sure!

        Reply
    14. Alison says

      April 01, 2020 at 3:02 pm

      This melted my cold, black heart. I love everything about this and am so glad you guys were still able to mark your special day in such a unique way. Congrats!

      Reply
      • Alexis Joseph says

        April 03, 2020 at 2:50 pm

        Hahaha thank you so much, Alison! That totally made me smile.

        Reply
    15. Paulina says

      April 01, 2020 at 2:36 pm

      CONGRATULATIONS!!!! You both look so happy and radiant!! May your married life be the most joyous and beautiful journey!! Thank You for sharing this wonderful news,!we all need some love and goodness these days!!

      Reply
      • Alexis Joseph says

        April 13, 2020 at 8:55 pm

        You're so kind, thank you Paulina!!

        Reply
    16. Joanie Anderson says

      April 01, 2020 at 2:35 pm

      You both look so happy and cute together. Congratulations!

      Reply
      • Kori says

        April 01, 2020 at 9:49 pm

        I commend you for handling this so well and doing what felt right in your heart! You looked stunning and so incredibly happy. I hope you are able to have the wedding of your dreams on July 17th. Congratulations again!

        Reply
      • Alexis Joseph says

        April 03, 2020 at 2:54 pm

        Thank you tons, Joanie!

        Reply
    17. Lisa says

      April 01, 2020 at 2:09 pm

      Congratulations on your marriage! This is an absolutely beautiful post. So inspirational. Thank you very much for sharing your special day. It has made mine πŸ™‚

      Reply
      • Alexis Joseph says

        April 03, 2020 at 2:49 pm

        I'm so glad to have added some brightness to your day!

        Reply
      • Alexis Joseph says

        April 03, 2020 at 2:54 pm

        Thank youuuu!

        Reply
    18. Cora says

      April 01, 2020 at 1:56 pm

      This honestly made my week. This is beautiful, and I am so very happy for you. Congratulations!!!

      Reply
      • Alexis Joseph says

        April 03, 2020 at 2:54 pm

        You're so sweet Cora, thank you from both of us!

        Reply
    19. Ann says

      April 01, 2020 at 1:44 pm

      This made me tear up. I have been married for nearly 9 years and I have loved every moment of it. I love your perspective--I can only imagine how painful it is to have to cancel a ceremony. BUT I love what you wrote, love is not cancelled. Love is what matters. Very different situation, but our wedding day was so stressful because of family drama. All of that melted away when I saw my husband. It didn't matter that the day wasn't exactly what we wanted, we were together.

      So beautiful. Congrats to you both and may your marriage be abundantly blessed in good times and hard times.

      Reply
      • Alexis Joseph says

        April 03, 2020 at 2:55 pm

        I so appreciate your note, Ann. Thanks so much for sharing the love!

        Reply
    20. Kori says

      April 01, 2020 at 1:37 pm

      As I have already expressed, I love this oh so much and commend you on handling this with such grace!! Even mourning and being upset is graceful as we are all human. I don't know what I would have done under the circumstances, but I truly believe this was a blessing. Now when July 17th comes up (I so hope it will work out then!), you can just bask in all the happiness and excitement while already having enjoyed a few months of wedded bliss. Many congratulations to you both!

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      • Alexis Joseph says

        April 13, 2020 at 8:56 pm

        Thank you, Kori. That means so much! We're feeling all the love πŸ™‚

        Reply
    21. Loucinda says

      April 01, 2020 at 1:16 pm

      Congratulations to you both!!
      So happy you got to celebrate your love and commitment amongst this fear and unknownπŸ’• my husband, Kelly and I will be married 39 years come this August. You will indeed have many stories to share with your grandchildren one day but for today thank you for sharing with us πŸ’

      Reply
      • Alexis Joseph says

        April 13, 2020 at 8:57 pm

        How sweet! Happy almost 39th anniversary πŸ™‚

        Reply

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