I wasn't planning on posting this until Monday, but after Today's Dietitian Magazine found it, they named me RD of the Day and it kind of went viral! Be sure to check out the original on The Huffington Post. Enjoy!
I like to think I'm a nice person.
A nice person with a helluva busy schedule and one too many commitments perhaps, all of which I love dearly and am not willing to forgo. Over my three and a half years of blogging, I've been asked every question in the book, from where I buy my shredded coconut and hot pink sandals to why I eat food X or drink bevvie Z if it "clearly causes cancer." I do what I love and I love what I do.
There's nothing quite like responding to some of my lovely readers' outrageous emails and comments. Some make me cry tears of joy and thank the heavens for blessing me with such a rewarding job, and some make me want to hit myself over the head with an oily skillet.
I always die a little on the inside. And then I laugh and laugh and laugh till my belly hurts and wonder if it's from your hilarious comment or the pound of popcorn I smashed while fervently responding to your questions.
As a food blogger and as a friend, I love answering your comments and emails. Except when you ask me to solve your wicked complicated health problems and why you can't substitute mayonnaise for almond meal.
1. How many calories per serving?
I don't count calories or base food choices on calories. Never have, never will. I don't advise my clients to count calories or macros, either. I respect your reasons for wanting nutrition information, but I simply don't have the time nor the desire to calculate that number for you. To be frank, after spending hours and sometimes days conceptualizing a recipe, creating content, photographing, and scheduling social media, the thought of calculating calories sounds about as appealing as scooping dog poo.
2. If I substitute steak for black beans and and cardboard for curry powder, will this recipe still taste the same?
Was I born yesterday or are steak and black beans a wee bit different? I don't make recipes with ingredients other than the ones listed, so substitutions are at your own risk, my friends. I love learning that other options work, but I'm not a wizard. I truly cannot predict the future so I promise that your guess is as good as mine. What I can't promise is that it will taste good. It probably will not.
3. Do you want me to order for you?
I beg your pardon? Did you just ask if I want you to order for me? I have a FOOD BLOG. The real question is when will this date be over and should I tag you in this Instagram salad er no?
4. Can you do a post on everything you eat for a week and why?
I swear this would not look as cool as it sounds. You'd probably question my sanity for never once sitting down when I eat and then judge my ridiculously low water consumption, rightfully so. If I had the time, I'd send you all personal food diaries with details on how emotional I felt after each bite. KIDDING. But seriously, I know looking at other people's food is super fun. It's kind of addicting. It's kind of scary.
5. Can I post your entire recipe on my blog but add more vanilla extract and a dash of salt and then not give you credit?
Is it just me or is blog etiquette a thing of the past?! This really gets me going. Imagine spending all day on a recipe post and seeing some one post THE EXACT SAME THING on their site without even giving you credit. OH NO SHE DIDN'T. Google doesn't like when my recipes live in multiple places meaning it also really hurts the page views I depend on for income (which allows me to provide free content to you).
6. How many calories should I eat in a day?
Three million. Yes, I'm a dietitian. No, I don't work for free. I'd love to help you, but please respect my time and ask to schedule an appointment with me before expecting me to solve your health problems via email or worse, instagram messenger. Nutrition is super personalized and I need to know A LOT about you and your past before I can begin to tackle any question about yourself.
7. I'm allergic to every ingredient in this recipe. Do you have any recommendations?
Allergies are no fun and I really do feel for those that suffer from them. But, BUT, once again, I'm not a wizard and I can't wave a magic wand to predict how things will taste when you add your own spins. Hopefully I'll be a food blogger AND a wizard in my next life.
8. I'm paleo. Do you have any advice for tweaking these whole wheat pancakes?
Hi, Paleo. I'm Alexis. These pancakes weren't meant to be paleo-ified. They're made with like, ALL the grains. Feel free to google "paleo pancakes" and find another recipe.
9. Can you teach me how to create a successful blog and take good pictures and open a restaurant?
Can I? Maybe. Will I? Probs not. That would be a lengthy response to say the least. I think it would take me three months to write. So I may just write an autobiography addressing those three questions instead and mail a copy to everyone who asks.
10. Why do you use the microwave? You know you're slowly killing yourself, right?
Because I'm lazy and it cooks food really fast and the last thing I want to do after a long day at work is get out a pan. Why do you drive a car?
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For more laughs, check out my Confessions of a Food Blogger post!
Brittany @ Barr & Table says
1. I love your honesty. Hilarious!
2. Seriously don't understand what's up with the blog etiquette. I've seen SO many copycat recipes that change 1 thing and give no credit. Drives me NUTS.
3. But seriously, why can't you solve everyone's diet problems/questions via twitter? 😉
Victoria says
This is hilarious!!!!! Thanks for making us laugh 🙂
Scott says
If you put yourself out there as an "expert" and you accept questions you are going to have to be more tolerant in certain areas. One area you could be more tolerant is the area of allergies. As an "expert" who is publishing recipes, it is reasonable for people to ask about allergy-related substitutions. In fact, it would behoove you to work with those people if not to improve your recipe but to understand their perspective and possibly better relate to them, the audience you are trying to sell to.
As a blogger myself, I have learned to listen to my readers and try to understand their perspective. I even allow those who disagree with me to publish those disagreements (as long as they are not disagreeable). I learn from them as much as they learn from me. You may want to reconsider this if you do not want to lose an audience!
moomoo says
I agree with Scott. This post was my first exposure to your work and although you're clearly passionate about sharing a vegan whole food diet with others, you almost lost me with your snarky-sounding comment about how you can't predict the future. Sounds like you're an experienced cook so you can probably imagine how a substitution would affect your dish, even if you can't be 100% certain about the outcome. Bryanna Clark Grogan (a true kitchen genius!) is really great about helping readers to find ingredient subs as I think she realizes many folks otherwise might just substitute animal products. Maybe she grumbles in her head about offering these options, but in all the years I've been reading her blog she has never shown any sign of the exasperation you expressed. Dreena Burton, Erin at Olives For Dinner, and Judith at Savvy Vegetarian are a few other of many very kind bloggers who come to mind.
In an ideal world we would all make your recipes exactly as you intended but in the real world many folks have allergies or budget considerations that make it more sustainable to use an item they already have in their pantry. In addition, we all have food preferences. When I cook for my husband I have to find substitutes for broccoli, cauliflower, mushrooms, sweet potatoes, and squash. No joke. I promise it upsets me more than it upsets you when I don't get to enjoy your recipe with its originally intended delicious broccoli (tho' if I can put it in half the recipe for me, I will!). But if I don't find the substitutes, then I will definitely make another recipe from one of the many other amazing vegan blogs and cookbooks out there.
Alexis says
Hi there. Thanks for your comment! This post was supposed to be light-hearted and satirical. I love my readers more than anything, and I spend hours each week responding to emails and comments helping people find good substitutions. Nearly all of my clients have allergies and intolerances. I totally value everyone's food preferences and this post was meant to be funny and taken with a grain of salt 🙂
moomoo says
I really appreciate your response. I've added a grain of salt to my bag here!
I actually try my best to make recipes exactly as the author writes (tho' I might add more salt and spice) because I want them to turn out well! I can understand it would get a little frustrating to have folks say they changed a recipe entirely and then hated it. Reminds me of those one-star reviews on Amazon for books that got lost in the mail.
Thanks again. Already have a few of your recipes on my To Make list.
Alexis says
Hi Scott. Thanks for your comment! This post was supposed to be light-hearted and satirical. I love my readers more than anything, and I spend hours each week responding to emails and comments helping people find good substitutions. Nearly all of my clients have allergies and intolerances. I totally value everyone's food preferences and this post was meant to be funny and taken with a grain of salt 🙂
Emily @ Glitz Glam Gluten-Free says
Hahah this is AMAZING.
Alexis says
Thanks lady 🙂
Real Food with Dana says
OMG. #7 and #10 just kill me, hahahah. It's funny because I'm one of those people that has a ton of food allergies/sensitivities but as a blogger I would know never to ask that question! And as for the paleo thing...um, hello. There's this thing called the internet. And there are approximately a million bagillion (or at least half that many) paleo blogs out there you can check out!
Alexis says
Food bloggers understood this post way more than others, I believe 😉
Real Food with Dana says
So true! I read some of these to my friends laughing out loud and they just...didn't get it. Awkward. At least we all understand each other!!